Let Her Be!!

She is in love – I wonder if she is a girl of good character!!

She had a recent break-up – I wonder if she cheated!!

She is in love again – OMG! There she goes again. I wonder how long this is going to last!!

She is getting married too early – Maybe she did something inappropriate that her parents want to get her married soon!!

She is 30 and still unmarried – I wonder why no one wants to marry her!!

She is married for 5 years and had no kids – I wonder if she has a problem!!

     Above thoughts sound vaguely familiar? I sure have heard them. Truth is, men are not under scrutiny as much as women in our society. People constantly wonder what is wrong with her. And this happens mostly outside the immediate family or friends. What do we know about her? Do we even have a clue of what she wants in life? Do we know if she is unhappy of what she is? Why do people set goals for a girl’s life in our society? And what’s with all these awkward questions? Do we even know how embarrassing she feels with all those questions? She has to dodge all of them with an inconvenient smile.

     Most of these people say, ‘I can understand what she is going through.’ Really? Sadly, women are the one who mostly gossip about other women. I honestly believe people can only sympathize. Empathy is too far-fetched. No one can ever understand a situation like another individual.

     Maybe you have the right to judge if her decisions directly impact you. Oh wait! Do you have the right? Let her live her own life. She might reap goodness out of her decisions or not. At least it is she who has taken the decision and not the mouth-piece of someone’s brain.

     For those who are hurting inside by these questions and gossips – There is no such thing as how to fall in love or age to get married or by when you should have kids. Stay Strong! Do things the way you want to and when you want to. People who care for you, won’t judge you and those who judge, never mind them. Live your life on your terms.

     I am no saint. So finally, if I have ever judged a woman in my walk of life, I really want to apologize and pledge to never judge again. Sorry ladies!!

FOR THOSE WHO ARE STILL ‘WONDERING’ ABOUT HER LIFE - Let her be!!!